One of the biggest problems we see in relationships these days is a lack of independence.
This is a kind of emotional dependence that can be quite damaging to a relationship. It can lead to clinginess, neediness, and resentment that can eventually destroy a relationship.
Now, a lot of people will think that this is a good thing. They feel like they can’t live without their partner, that their partner completes them, that their partner is quite literally their other half (replacing the missing half that they surrendered to get into the relationship).
But as romantic as this may seem on the surface, this can actually be a very bad situation to be in.
What do you do to become independent?
The first step is to realize that any sense of clinginess, neediness, or dependence is a symptom of a void in your life that you are trying to fill with a relationship or a person.
No person will ever “complete” you, so don’t try to do that.
Instead, find things that you can use to fill the void yourself.
HERE'S 8 CHEESY LOVEY DOVEY THINGS TO SAY TO YOUR MAN!
1. Nothing else matters, just this moment with you does
2. I only know love because I know you
3. Only you know how I feel, I'm so glad I'm in love with you
4. In this world I am connected to you by love
5. Our love together is what brings me joy and fulfillment
6. Listen close, you'll hear me whispering 'I love you' in your heart
7. You make me smile at the thought of you
8. Did you know that I love you? In case I haven't said it enough, I want you to know just what you truly mean to me
It's a no brainer that lots of girls want to meet a good guy. And they want to sort out the bad ones even faster. However, finding a boyfriend you can truly love is hard. There are lots of guys out there, but a lot of them won’t be right for you.
And when two people get together, there comes a point where you can get so used to being together, you might think you can spend more time to work on your projects and neglect your partner
a little, just know you will be in for a rude awakening.
Relationships take a lot out of you.
The ideal man for you is one who loves you just a little more than you love him.
It's normal to fight.
Every once in a while all friendships will have their arguments and ups and downs.
Sometimes other engagements take precedence and are out of your control, but these times can strain relations.
When you begin to feel that you haven't been as chum as you once were with your man, you need to start trying somethign new and taking immediate action that will reconnect you with your partner and re-establish the strong connection that you once had.
Some people judge their relationship satisfaction based on their happiness with their life in general. But there's always more to it than meets the eye when you want to improve the relationship with the man you find.
Consider the virtue of determining the health of their relationship based on a combination of feelings and behaviors. For example, my relationship is good when we are helping each other and when we help each other, we feel more love between us. The good news is, we can behave lovingly even when we don’t feel like it and change the bad situations better. This is because our brains are hardwired to noticed other people's feelings.
If you have friends who are giving you trouble and bringing you down, just remember one of the joys of being an adult is that you get to have choices. Limit the amount of time you spend with people who aren’t good for your mental health. And spend more time with the people that see the glass as being half full.
Am I right?